The Simpsons gets it…
While I’m not a Radiohead fan - too whiney for me - there is one lyric that has stuck with me over the years: “You do it to yourself, it’s true, and that’s what really hurts”.
In other words, most of what happens to you, happens because of you.
This means that most of the “problems” you have are those you created for yourself, usually unconsciously, to get some psychological reward by confirming a narrative you wrote for yourself a long time ago.
One of the hardest things to do is realise when you are the common denominator - when you are the one causing the problem. The world isn’t doing it to you. Rather, you are doing it to yourself. Victims and martyrs are often self made. And for me, realising when I was the common denominator - that the problem I was facing I was also causing - was the beginning of getting unstuck and moving on.
So got a problem? It’s probably you.
I know many dogmatic atheists. In fact, I was raised hardcore atheist. I had no spirituality whatsoever until my sister died.
But Joe Rogan, in conversation with the fascinating scientist Rupert Sheldrake (one of a privileged group of thinkers to have their TED talks banned by TED itself) expresses my current POV about the universe perfectly: “I have a problem with anyone who’s sure”.
Because “sure” means dogma has taken over, as there is simply too much mystery in the universe and consciousness for anyone to have any real idea of what’s going on.
When you think about it this way, in Adland we’re really just a bunch of pushers.
“Black men and boys” have been the target of the war on drugs’ racist policies—stopped, frisked and disturbed—“often before they’re old enough to vote…Those youths are arrested most often for nonviolent first offenses that would go ignored in middle-class white neighborhoods…Here are white men poised to run big marijuana businesses, dreaming of cashing in big—big money, big businesses selling weed—after 40 years of impoverished black kids getting prison time for selling weed, and their families and futures destroyed. Now, white men are planning to get rich doing precisely the same thing?” ~~Michelle Alexander
Corporate America: All your profits are belong to us.
His manager: “Iggy, why are you wearing a woman’s dress?”
Iggy: “I beg to differ, this is a man’s dress… I’m not ashamed to dress ‘like a woman’ because I don’t think it’s shameful to be a woman”.
Punk. As. Fuck.
"Have you ever ended up at the beach with somebody who starts talking about taxes?"
I’m a massive Duncan Trussell fan. His clarity about the human condition, combined with his use of metaphor to make complex ideas tangible, is masterful.
Here - in conversation with Joe Rogan and Chris Ryan - he breaks down how negative people suffer from “psychic flatulence” and are actually just saying “I’m scared, I’m scared, I’m scared” through their farts of negativity.
Thought provocative as always. (I think I’ve been guilty of this behaviour as a younger man…)